Achieving a healthy BMI using hypnosis

I receive many emails from Midwives and women regarding their pregnancy and birth experiences, but this email caught my attention as it is from a midwife who has used the Hypnosis to help her achieve a healthy BMI using the “Weight loss through healthy choices” track.

“As a midwife I had been made aware of the Natal Hypnotherapy service by Lynsey, who took the time and effort not only to promote this for the women of our local area but also to the health care professionals. Lynsey set up taster relaxation sessions, which not only were extremely calming for the very frazzled staff but which also bought her credibility in her mission to share the positive impact hypnotherapy can have on your emotional and physical wellbeing. With the staff behind her Lynsey’s reputation and the number in her classes became extremely impressive. She received the backing of her midwife and maternity care assistant colleagues, the head of midwifery, consultant obstetrician and most importantly the families she worked with.

My journey to achieving a healthy BMI

I had gradually over the years put on weight in all the usual ways; studying and grabbing quick, on-the-go food, working long shifts and having no energy to cook at the end, slowing down then stopping exercise. The usual. My partner and I had been together for 10 years and we were extremely relaxed and happy in each other’s company. He exercised a minimum of three times a week, playing football with his friends. I would occasionally train to do a 5K fun run and even once achieved a 10K, but once the big event was over I would go right back to sitting watching TV with my boyfriend and eating the same man-sized portions he required to keep up his energy needs.

When we decided to get married I had already started to realise how unhealthy my lifestyle was becoming. I was constantly tired, lived on potatoes, rice and bread and as a vegetarian I knew I wasn’t getting the right nutrition to keep a full time job, wedding planning and happy life ticking along. So I started to walk as often as I could, to and from work, into town, leaving that car at home. I cut out sweets and crisps, telling myself just get through the week and from Friday it was party time. Foody Fridays I called it. I was never obese, but with a BMI that had edged up to 28 it was only a matter of time and I felt happy I was taking the right steps.

The weight loss was painfully slow. A pound a month kind of slow. I started bootcamps and running to and from work, much to the delight of my colleagues who often found the once lazy girl dying on the sluice floor of a morning. The weight loss continued but seemed to plateau, I was nearing that healthy BMI but I was unhappy, it was hard work denying myself of any sweet treat then I’d binge eat my rewards on that precious weekend. I was so bored of salads.

This is when Lynsey suggested trying the “Weight loss through healthy choices” MP3.

Help reach your goal of a healthy BMI

I thought, why not? What harm? Lynsey assured me if I wanted it to work, it would, but I would have to let it.

I found the cd so relaxing but can’t actually recall much from the actual listening after removing my stones from my backpack and watching them fly away. I would start each time wondering how I would tune in and then become aware I was being counted back out and ‘awake’ again.

The main thing it helped me with was that I found healthier choices more appealing  and also to realise that making sugar a restricted weekend-only event needed to stop. If I did eat a biscuit on a Thursday I didn’t feel guilt and actually quite often a whole weekend would pass without any desire for a take-away or chocolate bar.

I felt like the effort had gone but the weight loss picked up.

abigail weight lossBy the time of my wedding I had a healthy BMI, and six months after although I have gained a little weight I still have not gone back into that overweight category. I also believe that if I listened as often as I did before I would have maintained that weight loss, however I am happy being in the “healthy” BMI category and so I am not sad about this.

I apologise for the length of this email but I felt it important to share my whole journey so you could appreciate just how this MP3 impacted my personal story, which I’m sure is actually very relatable for many women. I now recommend this to anyone who recognises a need for change in their lifestyle and who wishes to reach their goal of a healthy BMI.”


Thanks so much for your story Abigail.  I think many women will be able to relate to the challenges you faced.

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The “Weight loss through healthy choices” is available as a download (£10) or as a CD (£11.99)

A hug a day keeps stress away morning, one of my little lads came in and gave me a very BIG hug, holding on for ages.  When he finally let go, I looked and him and asked ” what was that for?”. He just shrugged his shoulders and said “dunno…I just needed a hug” and scooted off. It really made me wonder what it actually is about a hug that makes us feel so much better. So I did a little digging and it turns out that a simple hug is far from simple, there is actually so much that happens when we hug someone –  and pretty much all of it is good!
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What’s in a hug?

So here is my summary of the 10 amazing things that happen when you hug someone.
  1. Holding a hug for an extended time lifts your serotonin levels, lifting your mood and making you both feel happy – hence the BIG hug!
  2. Hugs instantly boost oxytocin levels which heal feelings of loneliness, isolation and anger. So helping you feel better!
  3. Hugging boosts self-esteem. From the moment we are born, our family’s use touch and hugging to show us that we are valued and loved, that we are very special. The associations of self-worth and tactile sensations from our infant years are still embedded in our nervous system as adults. The cuddles  we received from our parents whilst growing up remain imprinted at a cellular level, so hugs remind us at a subconscious level of that feeling. Therefore, cuddles connect us to our ability to self-love.
  4. The lovely touch of a hug builds trust and a sense of safety.
  5. Hugging helps you relax. It releases tension in the body and helps take away any pain as it increases circulation into the soft tissues. nothing like a bear hug
  6. Hugs are very much like hypnosis, meditation and laughing they teach us to let go and be present in the moment.
  7. Hugs encourage empathy and understanding, and the energy exchange between two people embracing is an investment in the relationship.
  8. Hugging is like therapy. Research shows that hugging (and also laughter) is extremely effective at healing sickness, disease, loneliness, depression, anxiety and stress.
  9. A hug can actually strengthen your immune system! The warm gentle pressure on the sternum stimulates the thymus gland, which regulates and balances the body’s production of white blood cells, which keep you healthy and disease free.
  10. A hug stimulates the parasympathetic nervous system which is the opposite to the flight or fight system so helping you feel safe, relaxed and hug

So what are you waiting for? Go give someone a big hug!!

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Stress busting tips for Midwives (well anyone in fact)

My top 20 stress busting tips

With the recent reports on the increasing incidence of work related stress in the NHS, these 20 stress busting tips may go someway to helping Midwives (and anyone for that matter!)

What first prompted you to become a midwife?  I imagine the words passion, inspiration, support and empowerment would have featured in there somewhere. Back then, I doubt that words like stress, paperwork, guidelines, protocol or workload entered your mind when considering your future plans. However, more than likely, if you are working in the NHS, these are the norm and as a result you may be experiencing some degree of stress related challenges.

So to give you a little helping hand, here are my top 20 stress busting tips to help you cope with work related stress and which may also then help you reconnect with the reasons you became a midwife in the first place.

Now not all of these may appeal to you so pick and choose – even if you implement just one stress busting top a day you will begin to feel more relaxed, more in control and better able to deal with the daily stresses and strains of midwifery.

1.See things in their true perspective – stress can make you feel more sensitive, vulnerable and lacking in self-esteem.  It is so important to keep things in perspective and not to take things cropped-pile-of-pebbles.jpgpersonally. If you are not dealing with a potentially threatening situation, take a step back and think, will this really matter next week? Is it really worth me getting stressed about?

2.Take the lid off the pot – talk about the stress you are going through rather than bottle it up. Get together with colleagues for a good natter and whinge – it is a great way to off-load and to realise that you are not alone.

3.Lower the worry rating – worry is such a wasted use of energy.  If you can do something about it now then do it.  If you can’t do anything about it now then mentally park it or write it down so you can spend a few moments worrying about it later if you really need to, and then move on so you can get on with your daily routine without the burden of worry.

Stress busting tip - show midwives some love4.Set up a mutual appreciation group with your colleagues so that each day you have to say one nice thing to each other – identify one good quality, one good action.  Once you start saying them and hearing them it can really lift your mood and self esteem. All too often stress leads to and is compounded by lowered confidence and lack of self esteem. Everyone needs a boost now and again so start the ball rolling and tell your colleagues something positive about their skills or actions!

5.Focus on the positive.  Every day spend a few moments thinking about all the great things about your job, no matter how big or small – great muffins in the canteen, some colleagues, some of the women you care for, the smell of new born babies or the sound of a breastfeeding baby. By being appreciative and thankful of even the tiniest things, it can help reduce stress.

Stress busting tips - create a protective bubble6.Create a protective bubble – this is something I have found incredibly useful as a way of protecting yourself from negative or challenging experiences. Before going to work, imagine you have a protective bubble all around you and any negative experiences, words or actions just bounce off leaving you unaffected.

7.Ask for help – as women who care for others it is often very hard to ask for help.  However sometimes getting a little help from a colleague or manager is enough to take the lid off the bubbling stress pot. Speak up if you’re experiencing a problem, and talk to your manager to find a win-win solution. Remember, its part of their role to help you do this.

8.Take time out to RELAXgirl takes a bath with foam. vector illustrationIt is amazing how many people do not see this as a priority.  Think about ways you like to relax and then put them on a list on the fridge door so you are reminded every day to take time to relax.  Even it is just for a few minutes

9.Coping with difficult colleagues – one of the challenges that can cause stress at work is being in close proximity to difficult colleagues. One thing to always remember is that no matter how much you would like, you cannot change them or their personality.  The only thing you can change is your reactions. So the next time they say or do things which wind you up, take a moment, take a deep breath, accept that you can not change them and provide a calm response which prevents you from getting riled up.

10.Get some fresh air during your shift – not always easy but it is so good to help your blood flow, to breathe fresh air, to re oxygenate and to just “Be” for a bit.

11.Make a list of the things that stress you out – again no matter how big or small.  Go through each one and think of alternative responses. Think of things you can do to prevent the stress from building in the first place.  One thought that always works for me is to remember “and this too shall pass”.  No matter what you are going through, it will pass, it will be over and you will get through it.

nakd bars512.Feed your body and soul – work toward filling your body with food with gives you energy, vitality and a sense of well being. It is all too easy to reach for the chocolates or biscuits as a quick fix, but when you can, fill up on fruit, veg and protein, drink lots of water, drink smoothies, have bags of
healthy snacks. Avoid processed carbs, especially sugar as they are a real stress inducer as your blood sugar levels go all over the place, they contribute to increasing your weight and are highly addictive – not great for beating stress!

13.Make a to do list – sometimes the sheer volume of things that need to be done can cause a stress response. So chunk it down, make a list of what you have to do and then check back to the list so you can tick things off. This helps to increase your self esteem and give you a boost as you can see on the paper that you really are getting things done.

HappyPlace2_l small14.Create mini spa moments in your day – these need only be for 2 minutes. Stop what you are doing, take three deep breaths. Focus on how your body feels. Notice if there is any tension and the just wriggle and relax that part of the body.  Next massage the fleshy bit on your palm between your thumb and forefinger. This helps to relax and disseminate and tension.  Next using both your thumbs, massage the top ridge of your eye socket at the top of your nose then work way around the eye socket. All the time keep taking deep breaths.  You can also visualise being on a beautiful beach on in your favourite garden whilst massaging.  Then circle your shoulders a few times one way and then the other. And finally end with three deep breaths. You can even do this whilst doing a wee!

15.Plan ahead – if you have a stressful situation coming up then use a hypnosis techniques and take some time BEFORE hand to run through the event in your mind and visualise or imagine yourself coping brilliantly, staying calm, focused and positive.  Just by imagining this a few times your mind will gravitate towards those actions when you go into the situation for real.

16.Learn to say no – once again many women who care of others find it hard to say NO. if you are feeling over whelmed then do not take on any more shifts, committees, projects for the time being. As you may tell others, no one is perfect so remember to include yourself in that bucket. Saying no is OK. Saying no to yourself is also OK – you do not always need to fix things, to go the extra mile, to sort out other problems.

relax button17. Identity your triggers – in the job of a midwife, there are many factors that cause stress which you can not change, however we all have some buttons which get pressed and trigger off stress where others may not be stressed.  Take time to notice what has caused you to feel stressed. Identify those triggers then think about ways you could act differently, or maybe ways that others act and then copy them. There may also be more practical things you can do eg if stress comes from hunger, dehydration, lack of fresh air.

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18.Take time out to be kind to yourself – again a bit tricky if you are a working mum or work long hours and many shifts. However giving yourself little treats at regular interval gives you something to look forward to, helps you nurture yourself and helps you relax.  Schedule in bubble baths, an hour to read a good book, coffee with friends, an hour to browse fun you tube clips, a visit to a local garden centre, a manicure. Actually put them in your diary and make them happen.

19.Learn quick, easy stress reduction techniques – one of the techniques I teach on all my hypnosis tracks is the “321 relax” – it sets up the suggestions that every time you hear or say the words 321 relax, you take a deep breath, relax your shoulders and allow a growing sense of confidence to build. You can create other triggers so that every time you squeezed your finger and thumb together you relax your shoulders, take a deep breath and so on.  In the beginning you can do this consciously but the more you do it the more automatic it becomes.

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20.Listen to my Midwife’s Companion track!! This is a 30 minute hypnosis relaxation track specifically for midwives. It helps with so many of the above points as well as many more suggestions on dealing more effectively with stress in your role as well as stress in your personal life and it is FREE for midwives!
Click Here to for your Free Midwife’s Companion MP3

So which one is your favourite?  Do you have any more stress busting tips to add?

I would love to hear from you in the comments below or on our Facebook page

Show Midwives some love!

Espresso ShotThe next time you see or meet a midwife, please show them some love and appreciation – you may just make their day!  A report out this week from the Royal College of Midwives highlights the fact that almost half of midwives in the UK suffered from work related stress.  Having worked with so many midwives over the last 10 years, I find this deeply saddening and feel that we could all do more to help Midwives feel more appreciated and valued.

When you consider that pretty much every midwife became a midwife because they were passionate about helping women and their babies, there is something seriously wrong when half of them find their job has taken a toll on their emotional as well as physical well-being.  It is also shocking that 46% of midwives suffered from stress compared with only 33% of paramedics who deal with far more traumatic and life threatening situations. midwives.

One of the most challenging areas for midwives is often from other colleagues – especially senior colleagues – a very sad 32% of midwives had experienced bullying, abuse or harassment from NHS staff in the previous 12 months.

And yet much of this stress and harassment is unreported with only 37% saying that they reported the most recent experience.

And even with those statistics, it is testimony to the dedication and passion of midwives as over half of all staff (58%), reported that they often or always look forward to going to work, with 74% of staff feeling enthusiastic about their job.

RCM director for policy, employment relations and communications Jon Skewes says: ‘Midwives are the backbone of the NHS, they work tirelessly to deliver the highest quality care to women and their babies, often without fair overtime payments and to have almost 4000 midwives suffering work-related stress is deeply concerning.”

So the next time you see your midwife or speak to a midwife colleague please,

  • tell them how much you appreciate what they are doing,
  • tell them what a great job they are doing,
  • tell them what a positive influence they have had on your day….show them some love!

A few kind words can do wonders to help reduce stress and help them feel valued.

My little “token of love” to all midwives I can’t meet face to face, is to offer them my Midwife’s Companion hypnotherapy track for free.

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Free hypnotherapy download to help Midwives deal with stress

This 30 minute hypnotherapy track will help them:-

• Deal more effectively with daily stresses
• Manage your emotional as well as physical well-being
• Learn coping strategies to deal with difficult situations
• Be more instinctive
• Become better at being “with woman”
• Manage your own energy levels

Click Here to for your Free Midwife’s Companion MP3

So please share this blog on your social network so more Midwives can feel the love!

Self hypnosis helps a 71 yr old prisoner

Letter from 71 yr old man in prisonToday I received this letter from a 71 yr old man who is serving a long sentence in prison. Somehow he has a copy of my Relaxation and Stress management CD and felt compelled to hand write me a letter.  He explained that is is very stressful in prison and that he has found my CD to really help him cope. What touched me the most was the last page where he felt that through listening to the CD, it had opened his eyes to a new life and that he felt it would help him stay in control and crime free when he is eventually released from prison.

I have had many letters and emails over the years but for some reason this really touched me.  It really reminded me how amazing we are as humans and that just by tapping into our subconscious we can feel more in control, make changes that are so helpful in the long run and give ourselves a new way of dealing with life’s ups and downs.

So no matter what your situation, taking time out to “connect in” with yourself, stopping to focus, breathe and be really present and giving yourself positive suggestions about the future, you really can reframe how you see your life and make changes for the better.

I will write back to him as I feel he has inspired me and given my belief in the human mind another mini boost. Do you have anything you would like to say to him that I can include in my letter?